How To Dress Classy "N" Stylish In Your 30s

                       Once we reach our 30s, everything changes.

Our body and state of mind is not the same anymore.
But are you allowing the tumult of your 30s affecting your fashion sense?
Well if it is than please read along, it'll probably help you.

Many women gets lost in their 30s with their sense of style because they don't want to look like a teenager, and don't want to look like a grandma either. That's were all the confusion comes from. So instead they just throw their jeans, sweat pants and T-shirts on and they're out the door. Some women in the pursuit of looking young and attractive are just walking around in their Birthday suit. No woman wants to look old and unattractive, it's in our gens, but there's a huge difference between looking young and stylish and looking foolish and trashy.

We're more mature in our 30s, our state of mind is not the same.
We have far more things going on for us than we did in our 20s.
In our 20s, our mind still worked as if we're still a teenager, everything was fun, fun, and more fun. With our body nice and tight, everything in its proper place, if you know what I mean - : )  with a minor effort any and everything looked good.  Now that gravity is taking affect, and slow metabolism is taking it's toll, clothes don't fit beautifully as they once did. Or maybe you had a baby and packed-up few pounds and your beautiful curves are not the same. Been there.... - : )))

Not to mention, that in your 30s you have much more important responsibilities to worry about than  fashion. You probably have husband and children to care for, thinking about taking your career a bit more seriously, trying to finish your degree or pay off your student loans, and so on and so forth.


 Do You Want Reason To Look Good
  You should look good for your self first, your husband will be proud of you in front of his friends,  your children will be proud of you when you come to pick them up at school, you want your boss to be happy that he can count on you, that you're on his team looking good and professional ready to work etc, etc.

Classy Looks Are Forever
When you're in your 20s everything is trendy, what's hot at the moment, once you reach your 30s, it doesn't mean you have to look like a grandma, but you shouldn't look scrubby or walk around in your birthday suit either. All you need  to do is focus more on classy investment pieces.When you out shopping always remember that Classy looks are for ever.

What are investment pieces?
Investment pieces means- quality over quantity. Pieces that never goes out of style.
That means instead of walking out of the store with two or three cheap dress- pick ONE with a higher price tag, (as high as you can afford of course) that has a better fit and fabric that won't wear off after couple wash or be outdated for a long time. Classic pieces are more expensive but you'll get your money's worth because you'll get much more miles out of them.

Someone sent me an email asking me for ideas on how to dress on her 30s
So, I'm gone give you lists of clothes that I think every women in her 30s should have in their closets.

Must have Dresses that will make you look classy and sassy in your 30s 
All you need is some carefree classic pieces that will make you look stylish without breaking the bank or sacrificing much of your time. Classic pieces never goes out of style so you don't have to be buying clothes all the time. Just because you're in your 30s doesn't mean you cannot dress fun and flirty, just add a touch of classiness to it.

#1- Must Have
Wrap and Shift Dresses are # 1 outfit that every women in her 30s should have in her wardrobe
These dresses are pretty and elegant that can take you from running after your children, to work, to a night out with your friends or hubby with class.

A Wrap Dress (the only dress for every shape)
#1 dress that every woman should have in their closet
It's a classy and suitable dress for every women's shape and age
It can go from day to night with just a little touch.
It's a forgiven friendly dress that allows you to hide few pounds without anyone noticing
Its comfortable,  and time saver because it's wrinkle free fabric so you don't have to be ironing, is not only perfect for traveling, but accentuates your curve perfectly no matter what your size is. The most girly dress ever for every women, no matter your size or age. It's a feminine dress.

For your first ones try to get it in neutral colors such as: black, navy blue, gray or brown. You can get much more miles out of them. Bright color are beautiful but they're limited. For example you can wear a black dress two days in a row with a different pair of shoes and jewelry, and people will never notice. Not so with a bright color dress, the moment you walk in the room everyone will know you're wearing the same dress.


The Shift Dress

                                        

I think the appropriate length of your dress/skirt should be knee length, if its shorter use a black stocking like this grey one.

Comfortable and chick.
There's nothing more uncomfortable and more unattractive that ill fitting clothes.
You can wear them with a pair of sandals/wedges or with stoking and ballet flats, or a nice pair of heels.

To be continued.........

"Those who honor me I will honor, but those who despise me will be disdained". Samuel 2:30

I think a woman should be modern, stylish and sassy, but I don't think it should be the core of our life. Yes, it should be a fun and joyous moment between you - yourself and your personality, but not 'the' most important thing in life. I believe that our main worries in life should be on how to honor our Lord, because when we do honor Him he will take care all the rest.

Best Summer Lipstick Colors For Every Women

 These are some of the best Summer Lipstick colors.

They don't have to be Mac, although these colors are amazing. I also love Estee Lauder, YSL's  collection as well. These colors look great in every women's shade especially Brown/bronze or Yellowee/orangee tanned color. With our skin-color the sky is the limit when it comes to make-up. With a nice tanned complexion anything looks good on you, you just have to make it work. If you work the lips, don't work the eyes, if you work the eyes don't work the lips. You don't want them both fighting for attention.    

All these colors look amazingly in Black Girls.

 I love red lipsticks in Winter time. I think it's very girly and romantic but I also think it's too heavy for summer. If you want to use it try it at night. In the summer I think the hot sunny days calls for a tropical look. It gives you an illusion of a nicely tanned face. Flowery dresses and bright color Lipstick or simply nude colors. It doesn't have to be Mac, I just like these colors, plus the lipsticks are really nice and creamy a perfect moisturizer for your lips on those hot summer days.  

You should give them a try.

Oranges

I Love anything Orange  in the summer, the sunny hot summer days just calls for it. 

Corals

I love Corals in the summer, they're soft and beautiful.

They basically goes with anything.

Pink is the most girly lipstick ever. These pinks are beautiful for summer

                                              Pinks



I love these Nudes

These are for the days you want a very soft natural  look. 
Nudes try them at the store and see which one fits you best

 

Violetta
A very pretty purple lipstick that's suitable for every skin tone.                              
I love it it's really pretty.  












"Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak". Mathew 26:41

Jesus said for us to watch and pray because the flesh is weak, if watching and praying our flesh is still weak, can you imaging what happens if we stop watching and praying?

Best Summer Up-Dos For Every Hair & Face Shape

For me summer is all about beautiful up-dos. I've selected a group of simple and beautiful summer hair styles for every face shape and hair type. They're all do-it-yourself hair styles, so you can look beautiful in the heat and save money at the same time.

Who wants their hair in their face with 100* out there. In these hot and humid days there's nothing more cooling and romantic than your hair brushed out of your face. Just pick the one that suits you best.

This is my daughter Elise, she did this summer style all by her self. She just comb her hair to the side and pined it with some bobby pins, made some pin curls with her fingers and hold it with some pins and sat under the dryer. Once the hair is dry remove the pins and you have beautiful curls that will last you all day. You can do pin curls on any hair length.

They come in different colors and molds

If you don't have enough hair use a sponge Donut to give you more volume or simply use a fake Bun.

                                                     

Just tie your hair into a ponytail insert the sponge Donut cover it with your hair and stick the end of your hair under the sponge and fasten it with bobby pins.

For this beautiful and stylish look, (especially in the summer), all you need to do is add a little bit of gel for sleekness making sure the edges are nice and smooth, twist the front of your hair, brush the back up into a ponytail and curl the ends if your hair is long enough. If your hair is not long enough attach a fake ponytail and do the banana curls. Banana curls means big closed curls.

                                                                                           

Allow your hair to dry curly and then pin up the back. If you want a dressier look as for a wedding or prom just add some hair jewel like so.

Skinny Hairline Braids
 Part your hair in the middle, add some cream leave-in conditioner frizz control. For a sleek look. Starting at the temple gives you a more classy look. French braid nice and firm keeping it close to the hairline. Do not add section of the hair over each other, add them under so you can have a nice corn row effect. Braid it all the way to the back of your head, secure the end with those tiny elastics and repeat the other side. Once you're finished, twist them together into a bun and add a little hairspray. And you got yourself a beautiful and easy hair do. For a more casual look like Jessica Alba, part in the middle and start your braids in the middle with a natural messy finger comb kind of style and a messy wrap bun.

Two beautiful pigtail braids
For this Look, all you need to do is:
 part your hair in the middle making two sections, brush your hair and make two low braids and then overlap them one over the other and pin it with hair pins.

Very simple but yet very pretty with a romantic look.    

Beautiful Beret
A beautiful hair jewel can make a world of difference. Look what a difference this beautiful hair tie made to this simple low ponytail, comparing to a scrunchy. Sometimes all you need is a beautiful hair jewel. It really makes a big difference in those bad heir days
when you just don't know what to do to your hair.

Flower Bun
How simple romantic and inexpensive is this.It can be worn for  a wedding, a prom, a classy event or just hanging out with your friends. Just tie your hair back adding a donut sponge for fulness and some beautiful flowers color of your choice depending on the occasion.




 

Triple Ponytail                   Very simple and yet very sophisticated. You can make a messy casual one to wear with your jeans or you can make a nice and sleek one like this that can take you anywhere from a prom to a wedding. 

All you need to do is divide your hair into three sections, small, medium and large. Starting from the nape, tie the smaller one first, then the middle one, and the top last, each individually.  Now join the top to the middle one and then both together to the smallest one. You can use a clear or your hair color elastic, or you can wrap a piece of electrical tape around the elastic for a chicer look. It's very simple and very pretty, and it can be done with basically any hair length 

Now how cute and simple is this? I use to wear my hair like this all the time back in the 70's. You can twist one side like this one you can twist both sides and have them meet in the middle. It can be done with any type hair or texture, long or shoulder length. 

"It is more blessed to give than to receive." Acts 20:35

I don't know about you guys, but me, I'm a giver. I've always been like this since I was a child. I enjoy seeing the joy in a person's face much more than receiving.

  

How To Use A Hair Diffuser

A little tip on how to comb your hair and how to use a diffuser

Learn on how to use a diffuser to lock in your curls to prevent frizz and puffiness in these hot summer humidity days.    

                   

Diffuser

                                             

"Let all that I am wait quietly before God, for my hope is in him."

Psalm 62:5

New Living Translation

How To Do A Wet Wrap

The wet wrap is 'The' best hair style in the summer, especially if you have short hair.

The reason I'm repeating my self over and over again, is because my daughters keep on telling me that I have to simplify things as style for Dummies. Meaning simple enough so every one can understand. There are tons of professional blogs out there but sometimes they're way too complicated. So my goal is to take the ideas, chew 'hem-up and and give to you in the language you can understand.    

My beautiful daughter Elise sporting her wet wrap.
She loved it so much because it was easy to maintain and really cool for the hot summer days.
Give it a try, you'll love it as well.

End Papers
You can use them on the tips of 
your hair when you roller set your hair
so you don't get those fish hook curls.
Meaning frizzy ends going every directions. 

Lottabody Setting Lotion

Perfet for roller settings and wet wraps.

Boar Bristle Brush

This brush is one of the best brush for African American hair. But avoid brushing excessively.
Make sure to get the one made from  wild boar/hog hair. It's a bit more expensive but it's worth the money because it's a lot more kind to your hair and it spreads your natural's oil much better. The synthetic ones (made out of plastic) is cheaper but it causes breakage because it's too hush to your hair.
If you have African American hair, you should never use it to detangle your hair, or it will result  in hair breakage. It should only be used to smooth your hair as in a wet wrap, into a ponytail, polish your look, working in gel into your edges and hair when you're making a puff or a bun.
How to know the difference between them two? Just run your hands through it, the real one should be softer and it should not shed. 


"Their loyalty is divided between God and the world, and they are unstable in everything they do". James 1:8 
New Living Translation

Best Hair Styles For Summer

Summer hair is suppose to look natural and effortless. Not overworked!


Loose summer curls:

To avoid the frustration of your curls dropping on you, keep it nice and natural looking, even a bit messy looks great in the summer. So when it does get sweaty and messy with the heat it'll still look great. I like my hair messy beach-y looking in the summer, I think it's romantic and very feminism. There's no point in keeping overworked and neatly hair-do, it's not gone stay anyways. And avoid touching your hair, the more you touch it the frizzier it'll get, because of the heat.

Using a one-inch curling iron, alternate your curls one going towards your face and some away.






                                                                             How cute and girly is this style?

For this beautiful romantic look just curl the back and left side of your hair, leaving the front with a nice soft swipe to the side bang. Beautiful and simple.


Curl the back of your hair interlocking, meaning one curl going back and one coming to your face, and the sides coming towards the face with a nice slick bang. Do not curl the top of your head, and make sure to use your leave-in cream conditioner before and after blowdrying.

This is a perfect hair style for summer
wash towel blot, add a little leave-in cream conditioner and blow-dry. Using a large curling iron, curl some section toward the face and some going back. This procedure will give you a more natural looking curls. The curls will interlock within each other,  making it
last longer.









The secret for beautiful 
curls in the summer, is 
the cream leave-in conditioner for shine and moisture to prevent frizz and swelling, (puffiness) and the interlocking curls for lasting longer and volume.








These beach soft curls looks good on any face shape
It's soft natural looking can flatter any woman's face.

This one you would curl it softer than the one on top,
and comb it with your fingers.

When I say curl it soft, I mean you take a little bit larger amount of hair and you don't tighten the curling iron to tight, or just wrap the hair around the curling iron.

This is a beautiful all year around style, especially for summer
because it has a soft summer look curl. With this curls you don't have to worry about your curls dropping.

All you need to do is wash softly towel dry your hair, add cram conditioner and blow dry your hair. Using a large curling iron,
 curl it downward starting from the sides all the way around as if you where roller setting it. Do not curl the to of your head. Just bump the bang with the iron so it can be nice and soft and swift it to the side like so. When you're finished open the curls with your fingers or a large tooth comb.






For these beautiful full headed shiny curls, all you need to do is roller set it and sit under the dryer until your hair is completely dry.  Make sure to use lots of leave-in cream conditioner for shine.

And for silkiness make sure it's completely dry, to know if it's dry check the roller on the top of your head, if the top of your head is dry, your whole head is dry.

When is dry, allow your hair to cool down before removing the rollers, that will lock in the curls for a perfect silky shiny curls that will last you all day long.











This is also nice for summer because it's a straight look, so you don't have to worry about your curl dropping.

Even if it gets a little frizzy it'll still look nice.
It'll sort give you that nice messy unkept beach frizzy kind of look. I think it's pretty.
You can even swash the bang to the side and pin it up with
some really nice hair jewel.
Make sure to put on loots of leave-in cream conditioner before blowdrying an after for a nice slick look. And it will not puff-up.







"Therefore, having been justified by faith, we have peace with God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom also we have access by faith into this grace in which we stand, and rejoice in hope of the glory of God". Romans 5:1-2

Is Your Hair Driving You Crazy?

Seriously, how much is your hair driving you CRAZY?
Enough to do something about it?
Please read along, 12 steps for your dream hair *

1  -Who says Black Girl's Hair don't grow? Seriously who?
Are your dry frizzy ends driving you crazy?

Do you hold on to those frayed ends just because you don't want to loose the length? Well, sadly to say, but if you keep on holding to those dead ends you'll never  fix your problem. Yeah, maybe you don't trust hairdressers because you think they'll cut too much of your hair, but you shouldn't cut it yourself either, besides if you do it regularly there's no reason to cut too much.   If you want to know how to have beautiful and healthy hair just keep on reading. Look how long, beautiful and healthy this black lady's hair look! It's all her own natural hair - no weave!

 2   -Does your bathroom shelf look like this one here?

       Do you buy every product you see on the market?Do you think your hair has a mind of its own? Is it dry and frizzy for no reason? Is it unreasoned or untamed? Do you think it could be chemically over-processed? Did you ever think that maybe is the product you're using? Or could it be that you simply need a 1/2 inch trim?

 3   -Do you hate getting a trim?
I know women that walks around with some dry frayed frizzy dead ends and refuses to trim their hair because they don't want to loose the length. What's more important, having a healthy shorter length hair or a long frizzy stringy unhealthy looking hair? Not to mention that it'll break off anyways. Once you have a nice soft layer cut you wont need to load up on styling products. All you'll need is a lightweight alcohol free mousse and a drop of silicone serum to add shine. And Voila'.

 4   - Is your hair difficult to manage?
It's not your hair that's difficult it's what you're doing to it that's making it difficult. That's the only way your hair can talk to you. It's trying to tell you enough with all this starchy products, and all these blowdrying and flat irons already! And can we get a trim please? God knows we can use one! - : )

 5   - Are you using more than one product to style your hair?
If you're using more than one product to tame your hair or making it smooth or fuller, the chance is your hair is damaged. All these mousse and gel and hairspray you're using may work for few hours, but it's actually murdering your hair silently. It's robbing your hair of it's shine and natural texture, leaving you with a steel-wool brittle hair.

6   -If you follow these few steps I guarantee you will have beautiful healthy hair in no time!

Ultra Black Hair Products

Cream of Nature and Ultra Black Hair products are really
 good because they are organic, no harsh drying chemicals.
No sulfates; meaning very hydrating and nourishing
for your dry hair.

ApHogee Hair Products

 Here are some of the best products for Black Girl's Hair: 

Cream of Nature Hair Products
This leave-in cream conditioner works much better than mousse.
You can apply it before blowdrying your hair, or you can use it for a natural curly look. Simply was you hair, dry with a paper towel, while your hair still wet, apply this cream small section at the time and air dry or use a head dryer or an infusion dryer to dry it.    

                                                           7   -ApHogee has one of "The"best protein and hair repair product for damaged and hair breakage for black girl's hair. I love their products, I even use them sometimes.


Silicone Mix
Silicone Mix +  Semi Di Lino Essential Oil = "The" most silky smooth hair you've ever seen. Seriously it's a must try! They use it in the Brazilian Saloons and charge an arm and a leg for it. All you need to do is mix it to the Silicone Mix and apply it on the shampooed hair and cover with aplastic cap and sit under the head dryer or heating cap for 15mim and than rinse and style. If you don't have neither head dryer or heating cap, just let it sit for 30mim than rinse dry and style. It's inexpensive and will last you a long time.

Semi Di Lino
Essential Oil

Aveda Summer Top Rated Products
Their leave in conditioner is really good
Or you can use Aloe Vera, cut the Aloe Vera leaf boil it let it cool wash your hair with it or use it as a leave-in conditioner. It's healthy, inexpensive and makes your hair shinny and smoother than any product you can buy. Try it, it works!








 8    - All these products:
All these line of products I listed are really good, I recommend them all, but if you don't have the money, try, egg yolk, grape seed oil, olive oil or jojoba oil straight from the bottle. Just warm it up and apply to your hair (dry) and leave it for about 15-20 min than shampoo and apply a small
amount of a conditioner massage, rinse and dry.


9   - This is an Diffuser Dryer

All you need to do is attach it to a blowdryer and dry your curls

 If you dry your curly hair with this Diffuser there's a

             less chance of your hair swelling or go frizzy on you, even on those hot summer days.  

That's what I do to my hair. I've noticed that if I let my hair to air dry, it swells up with the summer heat. But when I dry it with a Diffuser or under a head dryer for about 15min before I leave the house it locks in the curls and the shine and it looks beautiful all day long. It does not swell at all. 

                                      

10   - The only comb you should be using + your fingers

You should never use bristle brush or small teeth comb on your hair. This is the comb you should be using.

                                                                                                                                       

11   - All you need to do:
*-get a trim at least every six months
*-always use sulfate-free shampoo
*-always use a wide tooth comb
*-use a ponytail holder without metal clip
*-loosen your hair and use a silk cap on your hair while sleeping to avoid breakage
*-do a protein conditioning treatment once a week with any of these products listed above
*-if your hair is dry, Co-wash it sometimes, means wash your hair with conditioner instead shampoo
*-get organic products with natural oils such as: almond, coconut oil and jojoba oils
*-use a serum/spray (heat protective spray) before using any heat on your hair
*-Try stretching your relaxer for up to 8 weeks, it'll give you fullness and you'll avoid overlapping relaxer to your older one (causing over process)
*-all you need is a well-layered haircut that's not too heavy at the bottom. That'll do the trick!

12   -Don'ts:
 *avoid washing your hair more than once or twice a week,
*don't twist or rub hair with a towel it can break your weak ends,  dab it dry
* avoid mineral oils and petri oil, they dry your hair
* avoid products with petroleum, it makes your hair stiff, dry and greasy
*try natural oils such as:coconut, jojoba, olive and castor
* avoid using small combs and bristle brushes they break your hair
* avoid using grease on your hair, it only coats your hair making it uneasy to manage
* if you treat it once a week, you wont have the need to grease your hair


"I will not let You go unless You bless me!" Genesis 32:26